hello and welcome to the Intuitive Business
Mentor podcast with your host me
Amy Today we are going to be talking about 10 untruths
that we tell ourselves about social media
that are not aligned so I have channeled out 10
statements that many of us believe are true
most likely you don't believe all of them are true
but there's going to be at least one in here
that is for you possibly more and it's keeping
us from being
or keeping you from being fully in alignment
with what you are doing with social media
however before we get into that I would love to
invite you if you have not signed up yet I'm running
it's going to be so much fun it is something we do on my mastermind
often where we I bring on whoever wants
us to look at their social media
and we look at a social media account
and I intuitively check in for them about everything
about their social media
account that is not in alignment and what an aligned
social media
account would look like for them so we look at
what is the profile picture supposed to be
what kind of posts
are most aligned for you your business your best people
what how often are you meant to be posting
is there anything
that's missing on your social media that
is aligned for you to have on there is there anything
on your social media that is not aligned
for you to have on there it's always so interesting
fun and everyone learns from it even if it's not
everyone being pulled up
so what I'm gonna be running is a free call
where that we're gonna be doing exactly
that free call over zoom it is November 30th
I'll do a recording
but it's gonna be more fun if you can come live
and I'll be bringing however
many people I can bring on live and we'll be going through their social media accounts
and figure out what's aligned for them and what's not
for their business and their best clients
so if you want to sign up for that
it'll be in the description
box if you're watching on YouTube it'll be
in the YouTube comment
you could I'll tell you the link but
it's gonna be easier if you just go find it
WWW dot Amy Melissa Dame a m y
m E L I s s a d a m like Mary e dot com
slash social media free no spaces or anything
okay
we're gonna have a great time so I hope you join us and
drum roll
for our 10 truths or untruths so I'm gonna frame
them as things that we don't need to do but the UN
it's an untruth because so many of us think
we do need to do them so number one
you do not need to go viral
to make money or to have an audience
so many times we are focused on
trying to have our social media go viral
meaning have a lot of people see it
and we're not focused
on the one person or the five people or the 10 people
that are really meant to see it and work with you and
it's not a problem of course if you go viral
if as long as it's getting in front of
the your right people and it's not just
randomly being sent to people who
are not your right people
if it's going to the right people it's not a problem
however if we're thinking
we need to go viral we need this to go big
when we make the post or the reel or whatever it is
we're not thinking about the specific person so instead
again it's not wrong or bad to go viral but
instead of thinking
that when you're creating your content
what the guidance I'm getting to say to all of us is
instead think about the one person can you imagine
the one person that's going to be helped or inspired
or take you up on your offer
from that piece of content
and if you're speaking to that one person
it's a lot more likely when you create your content
that it will be shown to more people
because people will feel
that connection with your content
where if you think you need to go viral
a lot of times our content
becomes a little performative
because we think we have to perform
or do it a certain way to make that happen
so the first untruth you don't need to go viral
okay number two you do not need comments
and likes on your content for it to be working
so I understand this we all love comments and likes
because it shows
our content is resonating with our people
however and maybe think of yourself
here when you are scrolling on social media
are you commenting and liking
all the things that you actually like
and were inspired by
or something maybe you're thinking about buying from
are you liking and commenting on all of those things
maybe you are but you are definitely
in the minority if you're doing that
most people when they're scrolling on social media
it's a passive thing
they're scrolling for entertainment to waste time um
to check out from their actual life
so most of them are just simply
scrolling and they're not stopping
long enough to leave a like and leave a comment
so just because something isn't getting
the amount of likes and comments
that would feel good for us
we can remind
ourselves it doesn't mean that it's not working
it doesn't mean that people weren't impacted
by the content that you put out it doesn't
mean people aren't watching
it just means that they're simply not interacting and
one thing that I personally
do like to do is try to have people message me directly
so on my Instagram so much of the time I'm asking
send me a message
and we can talk about this or send me a message and I'll
intuitively check in about that
because I know most people are not gonna be commenting
especially
with what I do and intuitively checking on things
most people don't want people reading
like about their actual life and stuff like that so they're
just not going to be very likely that they're gonna comment
so something to keep in mind
yes the comments and likes are lovely however
when we're not getting
them it doesn't mean something has gone wrong
okay
number three you do not need it to look professional
oh my gosh did I fall into this trap at the beginning
I remember buying like Canva templates for my Instagram
so I could try to make it look like one matching
brand or one matching picture
if you go to my Instagram now that is not at all what it looks like
I think so many times we see like the really big brands
and how beautiful
their marketing looks and we think we need to emulate
that
but unless you have like a full marketing team
which I'm guessing if you're listening to my podcast
you do not
you do not need it to look like you have a full marketing
team
if like for me it's just me I'm the only one doing this
so it's not going to look professional
I have left the perfectionism with my social media
gone a long time ago I
I barely edit anything I don't use filters
I don't wear makeup anymore if you're watching
this on YouTube you know this I took a shower
today but normally my hair is not like done at all
so
I think we fall into we need it to look a certain way
but the reality is especially
now with more and more AI type stuff
you being your normal human self
is going to pull more people in
than you performing and trying to look
away that's not fully you
I want someone if they
watch my YouTube channel or they see me on Instagram
and then they see me in real life
I want to look the same
I want to sound the same
I want them to feel like they're knowing the real me
not some performative
version of me that's trying to act a certain way
because I'm online
I want it to not be like
oh that's not what I thought you looked like
like with the you know if
I'm sure you've seen people with the fancy filters
and everything and then
you see a picture of them it's like that is not even the same person
I don't want that happening I want that genuine
connection like on if to me that these are obviously
my perspective and thoughts you do not have to think the same
but I it feels more honest and authentic and genuine
when they
the people who are viewing my YouTube and my Instagram
see the real me
they're not seeing like a mask that I'm putting on
for the world and that goes
along with it doesn't need to look professional
it can just simply look like you if you have
something to share with them if they're your true
best clients they do not care how professional
your Instagram looks or how like perfectly edited
something is in fact if your if it's not aligned
for you to make it look professional and you make it look professional
they're going to be turned off by that because there's a disconnect
now if you let's pretend that you're like a coach
for lawyers and you are very professional
in the way you do your coaching
maybe you do want your Instagram to look professional
or your content to a if you're if you
if like your service that you provide to people is
editing their social media
then yeah maybe your social media
should look better than mine
so I guess that's something that
for me it's just
an obvious thing but I probably should have said it in the beginning
we all also have unique paths
and unique business paths and unique everything
of what's in alignment for you
so just because I say you don't need it to look professional
that it me whatever that means to you like it
maybe the best word is not you don't need to look professional but you don't need it to look a way
that's not authentic to yourself
so if you do want it to look professional
then it would be an alignment to make it look professional
but for most of you
you're using the I need to make it look professional
to hold you back
and to kind of be down on what you are doing
instead of moving forward with just
sharing your magic with the world
okay number five
you do not need to follow
the advice of all the social media group
all the advice that the social media gurus say
so what I mean by that
is there are a lot of brilliant social media
accounts
on social media sharing their wisdom with the world
however all of their wisdom is not meant for you
what is aligned for you is meant for you
and some things they say you might be like ooh
that would be really fun like maybe
they're like okay a great way to get visibility
is to do a 30 day challenge
and you're gonna do one reel a day
and maybe you're like oh that feels like a
stretch like an exciting challenge for me and then you
decide to do it
that probably meant it was an alignment for you
someone else could hear that same thing and they might
hear it as the only way I'm gonna get visibility
is if I do
a video reel every day but I hate doing video
I hate talking on camera and my schedule that's gonna
I just don't know how I'm gonna fit it in to do a video every day
and then if you force yourself
to do it it's probably not gonna go well
you're gonna feel burnt out
and you're gonna be frustrated but it wasn't even
in alignment for you to do in the first place
so there is lots of advice
everywhere and it is so important for you to feel into
what is actually for me like does it feel like an exciting
challenge or does it feel incredibly overwhelming
if it feels
incredibly overwhelming it probably is not for you
even if
the social media gurus say this is what you have to do
okay number six
you do not need a lot of followers to make money
this goes back to a different podcast I did where
most likely if you're listening to this
you are not an influencer
you are here to share some sort of service
with your people so influencers need a lot of followers
to make money they make their money by their followers
by their views by their likes comments link clicks
all that stuff I don't know I'm not an influencer
however if you are someone who's offering a service
coaching or sessions or artwork whatever it is
you don't need a ton of followers you just need
an audience
of the right people and it can be at a much smaller
scale
so it is really not about
grabbing a ton of followers from everywhere
but really just building
that audience just one at a time of the people
who really are meant to be around you
and what happens
when we think we need a lot of followers
sometimes we negate
the people who actually are in front of us
so if I'm selling
the doors are not open
right now but let's pretend I was selling
um 10 spots to my intuitive business mastermind and
in my head I'm like okay I need
like I need so many more followers
I need so many more followers so I can
get them in the mastermind
but like in reality I need 10 people
10 people 10 of my right people
that I can support in my mastermind now yeah
excuse me sorry I'm not gonna edit that out for you guys that are have me in your ear
right now
um
the people watching on YouTube that probably wasn't as
annoying so
the oh my gosh
I feel like okay if you don't know me well so
a lot of what else that I do is
energy work behind a lot of calls
so just FYI there's a lot of energy work happening
hence my cough it's that we're clearing energy
so with these untruths kind of that we're going over
there is a lot of energy work in the background
that is clearing out helping you clear
any of these limiting beliefs so if any of this is some
like if I hit on like a lot of these are gonna
you're gonna be like yeah
yeah whatever I know that I know that
there's going to be one of these
at least that you're really meant to pay attention to
and it's a limiting belief that needs to go
and in the background
just know there is energy work right now
supporting you in releasing whatever limiting beliefs
you're ready to release so the cough was not random
it was on purpose okay
what was my whole point oh and I know mathematically
I like technically
need more than 10 people if I have 10 spots
for my mastermind however if I'm thinking
I can just if I'm thinking I need a ton of followers
or I'm thinking I need 10 people
I'm going to be acting a lot different
in how I create content and how I talk to people
in my content that I am creating
so it can be helpful to not feel overwhelmed
with feeling like I need
you know 2,000 followers 200,000 followers it's like
no I just need like 100 people in front of me
that can be helpful
number seven
I love this one I'm so happy that this was one of the ones that came out
you do not need to live on social media
I feel like I'm gonna read that again
you do not need to live on social media
we talked
about this in my mastermind a lot and about boundaries
with social media
personally if I did not have a business
and I was not sharing this kind of stuff with the world
with my right people not the whole world
I would not be on social media
I would be off it I would probably have a social media
in case I wanted to like look things up and connect
with people from high school or something
however I would not be on social media even right now
I recently I don't know how long it's been
a few weeks I do not scroll anymore on social media
I have stopped scrolling I will still check my social
media because that's how I connect with a lot of people
I connect with on my Instagram it is only for business
so if I am logging into my Instagram
I am checking my messages
I'm checking my notifications
or I'm putting up content
if I'm logging into my YouTube
and I know this is kind of funny because
especially if you're
watching this on YouTube and you're like
well that's the only reason why I'm seeing your video because I'm scrolling on YouTube
there isn't a line time for scrolling I have watched
so many YouTube videos I'm so thankful for YouTube
I'm thankful for podcasts I've consumed
so much over the last years and again so thankful
however
right now I know my boundary
with social media is to not scroll
and to not consume all the social media
so there are going to be different phases
in your journey where different things are aligned
maybe it is checking social media
I think we had someone in my mastermind we checked in with the pendulum
it was like
I think she got 10 times a day it was aligned for her
hi Joanne
it was aligned for her to check 10 times a day there
for me I there's
most of the time it's aligned
for me to check three times a day I'm not rigid
about it I allow it to be flexible
if I'm doing something on social media that day
like I'm giving free intuitive readings in my in my DMs
I'm gonna check it more than three times a day
if I am not uploading content that day
and I'm not doing free things in my messenger
I will check it one times a day one time a day
it's just it can be fluid
but I think it's important to know
you do not need to live on social media
if you still get your notifications
like if someone messages
you or leaves a comment and it shows a notification
on your phone
I'm going to bet 99% of you
point nine it is not aligned for you to have that
so if this is the number seven I could
probably should do a whole other podcast on this
but boundaries around social media
they're going to be different and unique
for you because you are
unique on your journey of course however it's
for some of you this is going to be a big one for you to reflect on
and if you need help on that maybe send me an email
because I have a lot of advice I could give you on that one
if you're having
trouble or don't know what's aligned for you
on how often to be on social media
but you do not need to live on social media at all
okay number eight
you do not need to look or act like an influencer
you are not an influencer
unless you want to be but again I don't think you're watching
this if you're an influencer you're watching like
someone vastly different
you do not need to look or act like an influencer so
if you are
scrolling on social media and comparing yourself
to other influencers and it doesn't feel good
we need to stop that either you need either
maybe that's unfollowing their accounts maybe that is
just noticing it
I don't need to act like them because I'm not doing what they're doing
they're trying to get just attention
to get attention sake or to get link clicks
and this is not me being down on influencers
either it's just not
it's not what I do and it's not who I help
so if you're here
you it's also probably not what you do and it's not going to be helpful to compare
yourself
to them because they have you have different goals
you have
a whole different reason for being on social media
them being on social media is a job
like they do probably need to live on social media
I use social
media as part of my job it is simply a tool
it is not I'm not living on social media I'm not like
living and dying by the algorithm it's just a great way
a great free way to connect with people
so I can find my right people that I'm meant to help and
support
next No. 9
you do not need to have it all figured out to help people in exchange
for money
this is gonna be
big for some of you I just heard ding ding ding
you do not need to have it all figured out to help people in exchange for money
so many people think
if this is for you this is probably what you think
I need to have like everything
all set up before I put any kind of offer out there
before I put something in my bio
that says DM me for blank or before I put anything
for them to take that next step with me and when you
don't have that
in your on your social media when there's nothing
that's like do this so you can work with me or
click this so you can work with me or
send me a message and we can figure out if you're meant to work with me if you have nothing like that
in your bio or on your social media
it just looks like you're a regular
person that just likes to post on social media
which is fine unless you're there for money
and to help people
if you wanna just do it to do it that's totally fine
however
I also think that's a limiting belief because I think
if you're actually
stepping in and doing this and creating content
so you can share what you're
aligned to share with your people
you are meant to receive money in exchange for it
you would not be listening to an intuitive business
mentor podcast
if you were not aligned to make money we still
now would it be fun
if we didn't have to make money and we like lived in a world where we didn't need money
of course like super fun
but we are still on earth and
we still have money and that's just like where we are in humanity
so we have to play or play with that
I mean we don't have to you get to choose
you don't have to ever take money however
if you're here I'm guessing it's a line
for you to exchange money for what you're doing
so you do not need to have it all figured out
you are going to be steps ahead of someone
else that you can help
you also sometimes it's also much easier
helping someone else than it is helping yourself
sometimes it is much easier to see someone else's blind
spots then to see your own blind spots
or the thing that you help people with
you already have so much wisdom with
you've already done probably so much for yourself
using whatever tools those were
and now you have so much wisdom to share with other people
your right people
do not need you to have it all figured out
because surprise surprise
you will never have it all figured out
none of us will ever have it all figured out
because everything's always changing
we're always up leveling
if we're on our aligned path we're always up leveling
and there's always gonna be something
new to learn and something new to troubleshoot
so if you think you have to have it all figured out
before you can really do the thing you're never gonna
get started
you're never gonna do the thing because there's
always always something like there's probably like 100
things I could probably make a list right now of 100
things that I could make better or
get all like lined up like my website
for one that's like 50 things I feel like
you don't need to have it all figured out
your right people
will be totally fine being like here's my Venmo
here's my Paypal I don't have a fancy
sales page yet but here's all the information
you do you your right people it'll be perfect for
okay last but not least
this is what came out chat GPT probably
I'll say why I said probably but chat GPT
AI whoever you're chatting with probably
does not know what is best for you and your social media
I have talked to many people
not the people in my mastermind
the people who are not in my mastermind
that I hope join in the next round because
they've told me the advice that they got from chat GPT
and it is wildly unaligned
every time someone has told me
it's like well I put everything
into and I'm not against AI
I I think there's a time and a place and
surprise surprise an aligned way to use it
I think chat GPT or AI can be great for brainstorming
I think for brainstorming ideas for organizing thoughts
I do think there's a time and a place for AI
how I don't think AI images
if you're using AI images it's probably not aligned
and every using chat GPT
as your business coach or your therapist
probably not aligned now
if you are using it and it's like really working
for you and your
social media is taking off and you're making
meaning like you're making money people are taking
you up on your offers
then
keep going with it of course with any of these things
if it is working
for you if it's working for your social media meaning
people are actually paying you
because of your social media
that is how you know it's working
then keep doing it
does not matter what I say because again
different things are aligned for different people
however for almost all of us chat GPT
is not going to know what's best for us in our social media
unless we really direct it
so if you're typing into chat GPT like okay
this is what I'm thinking
this is my kind of person that I wanna connect
with this is my offer
this is how I like creating content
this is what I think my people like
and this is what I'm thinking for how often I wanna
this is like what feels
good to me for how often I wanna do it
if you can input that kind of thing into chat GPT
it could probably
help you out and get a schedule for you
and it will probably be good advice
but if you were just asking chat GPT for advice without
directing it first of saying like this is what I think
you're probably not getting good answers
like not you're not getting aligned intuitive answers
so I'm not saying stop using chat GPT
because again it can be great
however if you are using it
I think the biggest thing that's going to be helpful
moving forward is you are the director of it
so you like chat GPT is like an assistant
not the like business coach or the therapist
so when I'm using chat GPT
I'm telling it what I'm thinking
this is what I'm feeling this is what I'm thinking
this is what I think my people are thinking
I'm not asking it for advice
it's my assistant it's like helping me think
better or helping me brainstorm better
but I am still in charge so if you are outsourcing
like it to be your business mentor or your therapist
I would rethink that a little bit unless it's working
for you then of course keep doing it
that is the bottom line obviously with everything
if it's working keep doing it if it's not working
there might be something for you to look at
okay those are 10 channeled untruths
that we tell ourselves
about social media that are not aligned
if you're into this kind of a conversation
you're definitely
gonna want to come to the free social media call
Amy Melissa Dame the Dame is d a m e. com
slash social media free
I'll try to put the link everywhere I know it's so
annoying to hear it
said out loud and then you have to type it in
so I will try to put the link everywhere for you
it's going to be such a good time I will send
send out a recording
but of course if you can make it live it'll
it'll be more fun
okay so much love to you all
and if you ever want to email me or if you're watching
this on YouTube just leave a comment
I would love to know which of these kind of you felt
there was a little something to and
which needs a little limiting belief work or just um
a change in perspective
and if you have any you wanna add
any if you wanna add your own
go ahead and add those and yeah
I look forward to connecting with you
okay so much love to you bye