hello and welcome to the Intuitive Business
Mentor podcast with your host me Amy
and before we dive into today's episode I wanted to
invite you to a very exciting free zoom call
that I have coming up it's going to be November 30th
I will put all the details to sign up in the notes
and it's going to be a live
class over zoom where I do social media audits
so I'll be bringing
on as many people as we have time for it's gonna be an hour and a half
as many people as we have time for
and I will be looking
at their social media so one social media account
and feeling into
what is in their highest alignment
for them their business and their best people
um and giving them actual action steps of
what how their social media is aligned to change
or move forward
and yeah it's gonna be a lot of fun I'm super excited
I think we're gonna learn a lot
and even if you don't come on live
I know there's going to be so much shared that
will resonate and help different people
so if you wanna sign up for that check the notes and I
will get you in there okay so today's episode
we are doing an aligned business
check in for a lovely woman who is an energy healer
intuitive energy healer and teacher
and what I love about this
what is going to come through
with what I checked in for her is that
the
what I believe is in our life we have these kind of like overarching
themes um for personal growth and when we are
like working to share our magic with the world
in exchange for money entrepreneur
a lot of times that growth theme
comes out even more so it's like one more way
to do this in a deeper way and for this personal
growth and learning
and that's really what's coming out in this reading
so when I checked in it's less about
it doesn't seem like it's about business
and I think that's really neat because it just shows
the importance of our own personal growth
through our entrepreneur
journey and how when we really lean into
our own personal growth it is kind of like this
amazing beautiful catalyst for then what we can do
in our entrepreneur journey so let's get right into it
one big thing that
came out in the beginning
of the form that she filled out for me is
that these are her actual words
I just feel one obstacle after
another and I can't get back into a rhythm
this felt really
important to share for her but also for so many of you
because of the questions she asked next in reference to
having these obstacles after obstacles
because sometimes
we have all these obstacles because we're human
and we live on earth and it's just going to happen
but sometimes it makes us question
exactly what she wrote
after here which is this a sign
I am not moving on the right path
and am I being shifted to do something else
now could it be possible
that your obstacle after obstacle could be a sign
that you are meant to shift of course
however for her case
and probably for many of you it it is not a sign
so when I got is it a sign
I'm not moving on the right path I gotta know
and am I being shifted to do something else I also gotta
know
and it just felt important
to just kind of voice this idea that obstacles
don't always mean something has gone wrong
if something is hard or not working
it doesn't always mean
we need to shift or something has gone wrong it could
but it also
could not so it's important to be able to feel into
either one of those and for her it
there have been a lot of obstacles and a lot of just
heavy human stuff happening
however
it's kind of just happening and it's not happening
so she makes a shift
it's like two totally just separate things going on
her running
her business and her having a lot of obstacles
in her case they're not related
so that felt important for a lot of you to hear
and then the next thing we felt into you is um we're
kind of like where is she meant to
what is she meant to focus on right now
um so what she had mentioned that
she needs to make herself and this business a priority
instead of dropping everything for my loved ones
um it's a people pleasing habit uh that I need to stop
so
I know this
comes up for a lot of people is having trouble
making the business a priority
when you want to make the business a priority obviously
you also have choice
you don't have to make your business a priority
this is for the people
like her who want to make her business a priority
however
she keeps finding herself putting her loved ones first
um kind of falling into those people pleasing habits
and um she also mentions that she has been
this comes up
a lot of times after this in in what I got is um
so I'm sure it's important
for a lot of you I also need to stop numbing
my feelings and falling into old patterns
so in her what I would be curious about
is in her normal life like not business
is she having these same things happening
I do get a yes
so is she in all areas feeling like
it's hard to prioritize myself
because sometimes
the business can just be a layer deeper
it's like okay I figured out how to prioritize myself
in this way whatever
the kind of big personal growth theme
that you're working on and then
the business kind of just takes it a deeper layer
but this feels like she's really working on this theme
in all areas of life and one way to work through it
is by making the business a priority
and so this is just this like kind of life theme
coming up here and when I checked in um
like what is she meant to know from all of this
it says um what I got was
um oh the pouring into others
did serve her for some time so it is also possible
depending what season of life you're in
I have definitely been there
I'm still there in some ways
with my kids are still pretty young is
it might actually be aligned to pour
more into others than yourself that could be true
a lot of the times not true but it is possible
so what this kind of was reflecting back to her
was like pouring into others was serving her
in in alignment and the people around her
it it was aligned to be kind of really
putting other people before herself for some time
it is no longer serving her and that's where this is
important and this is why
she's probably feeling so much of this friction
is um the exact
words that I got were it is an outdated
version of herself moving in the world
so it's like she has up leveled
it's like she has she is like the new
computer program
and she's still running these old computer
programs on her new system and it's just causing
all this friction
because it's no longer aligned for her to be
putting other people prior
prioritizing other people before prioritizing herself
and then where I asked like where does she
start with this what's like the first kind of
step because it does feel like a lot
it feels like a lot to work through and it could
be so overwhelming that nothing happens
so I wanted like a really like what's the simple start
because this is gonna be for a lot of you not just for her
is her simple start is stop numbing her feelings
so and I I was like okay well what does that mean
because stop numbing her feelings
could mean a million different things
um and it just sounds so vague so
I asked what does that mean and I got
again this is gonna sound so simple
but this is what so many
of you are also probably being guided to do in your life right now
if you're listening to this is purposely
setting up time each day to sit and feel your feelings
so purposely setting up
like what I got was Blank Space so like
even if it's like two minutes five minutes
it feels like it does not even need to be 10 minutes so like
five minutes or less of creating these spaces
in your day even if it's like one a day
where you have nothing going on
and you're not like trying to figure
something out in your mind you're purposely just like
sitting and doing nothing
could it be meditation
sure but is that what she's being guided to do no
it's really just creating
these moments of just literally
blank space just like OK I'm gonna sit
I personally do best with this if I sit
and like drink a glass of water at the same time so
my body and mind kind of have something to focus
on which is drinking the water it could be a
a cup of tea coffee
but doing it while doing nothing else
so if you do need kind of
something to keep you a little
occupied I could see some of you like
um you could even be like doing this while folding
the laundry
this could be doing this while washing the dishes
it's okay if your body a walking
it's okay if your body needs something to do if it's
if it's really really hard for you to just literally
sit and do nothing
you might want to do something with your body
whether it's drinking
like it could be as simple as drinking a glass of water
or
washing the dishes but just allowing your mind to not
figure things out so if your mind's
always racing like most of ours is
you start washing
dishes and you're like okay I'm just gonna like
be in the present moment
I'm not gonna be thinking about things
I am just creating this blank space
and you will get better as you go this is literally
like a lifelong practice of being able to do this well
is those thoughts come in and it's like oh yeah
I'll figure that out later
I'm not figuring things out right now
right now I am only washing the dishes
more thoughts come in
your brain offers you other things
okay I will figure that out later
right now I'm only washing the dishes and the more
that that is done the more little blank
spaces even when you're driving you can do this
just creating a space where you're gonna
like keep reminding your brain
I'm not figuring things out now I'm not worrying
right now I am just doing nothing
or just doing the like thing your body is doing
so that's like getting the foot in the door
to starting like allowing your body to process
a lot of the feelings
that are around and that need to be processed
okay
I feel like I'm gonna be saying a lot of similar
things now in different ways but it feels important
so I had asked her what do you think your next aligned
step is
and she had
written some business stuff which sounds great however
again they were like I was like okay
are these the next aligned business steps
and the guidance from her energy was like
we're not focusing on the business stuff
because your next aligned
step is to feel your feelings
so even
this is again like our personal growth stuff showing up
so we can have that
really aligned business that we want
like can you make money can you have clients
without feeling your feelings of course
however if you want
which I know all of you are here because you want that like aligned
business that feels good and is moving forward and like
a way that just feels aligned and good and purposeful
is a lot of times it is kind of dealing
with some of the human stuff first
so we can then move forward
with more of the business stuff and then
the business stuff can also have a greater impact
because our our energy is in a better spot and so our
content and what we put out there will be in a better
spot
and then our best people can pick that up a lot easier
okay so
her next alignment step is feeling your feelings and um
what came through with that it's
it's like she is having to wade
through muck and MUD right now
so when she is going to do her business things
it's really been hard for her to focus
and um it's like she feels like she needs a lot of
hyper focused time
and what I was getting is the more she
kind of processes all these feelings and like
emotions and
kind of stuff that probably she's been pushing down
um it will clear this up for her so it won't feel like
there won't feel like she's
walking through like muck and MUD
to be able to do the business
things she won't feel like she needs as much um
hyper focus she'll be able to just
she'll be a lot more clear and it'll be a lot easier
to be able to
come up with what whatever content or whatever
um she was referencing her blog and social media posts
discussing what she does so people can
like learn what she actually is doing and
become her client if it's aligned
it takes a lot of energy for her right now and
what I got is so there is a backlog of feelings
that are ready to be processed and then in caps
this is the priority so most of us
like do not want to make things like this the priority
this is not as fun as just like ticking off
the like things that you want to do for your business
um but
what the guidance I got was once she has cleared
away this backlog of energy she won't she won't
feel like she needs to be hyper
focused to make progress
she will be able to fit what she wants to do
in a lot easier because it will take less effort
so by feeling the feelings processing the feelings
it's like kind of annoying work it's human like
slow it can feel like human slow work
but once that just becomes
normal and that gets processed
and I do know because she is like she does this
um she does this for her clients I'm sure
like she does energy healing work for her clients
and sometimes I'm sure so many of you too
what you are like so good at you are um like magicians
for your clients
and sometimes we forget
that those same tools and methods and processes
we're meant to use on ourselves
too so this is also about
making herself the priority
is like she is worthy of spending the time on her
doing the energy work that she does on her clients so
processing feelings
is going to be different for different people but for her
it's like
what would she do for her own client
and that's probably what she is being
guided to do for herself and I'm sure that's similar
for so many of you it doesn't have to be processing
feelings but whatever you help your clients
with or you want to help your clients with
most likely if you're
having any kind of obstacle or any kind of hard time
that is
you're being guided to use your magic on yourself
so that feels like
even if for you it's not the feeling
feelings and the processing of emotions
it could be something totally
different but if you're having any kind of friction
or obstacles or a hard time something frustrating
I would look at if a client
came to me with these things
what would I do for them and then do it for yourself
that is kind of
the bigger message for everyone right there
okay
so um
another thing she had going on
was just kind of her living situation right now is not
exactly what she wants it to be and so
um
what came through with that
because she can't change the situation so her living
situation is just where it is right now it's kind of just a circumstantial
thing
but what she is being guided to do is who is the person
it is safe
so it's a safe situation it just isn't fully aligned
the answer
would be different if it was an unsafe situation
that is why I'm like caviating caviating that
so she is in a safe situation
however it's not aligned and it's not really where she
how she wants to be living
who she wants to be living with
so because she's not meant to
change the situation right now
what she is being guided to ask herself
is who is the person I am being guided to become
that can put myself first
with her situation at home
a lot of times she's not putting herself first
that's kind of that theme coming out again
so who is the person I am being guided to
become that can put myself first
and then I got if if I can do it in this situation
I am in right now I could do it in any situation
so it feels like even though the situation she's in
for a living doesn't feel aligned
there is this like really
perfect opportunity to be able to become a person
like the next up level version of herself
that can do well within this situation so um
what I got was she does not need to change her situation
for who she is living
with to step into this new version of herself
and being able to transform
into this new more empowered aligned version of herself
while in this situation
will serve her so much in the future
so where she is right now even though it's not where she wants to be
and living how she wants to be living being able to
prioritize herself while in that situation is going to
up level her in so many beautiful
ways that will serve her
in the future
what also came out
was how can she see the person she is living with
as a teacher who is supporting
her in becoming this new version of herself
so because she's living with a safe person
even though it's not like the aligned
person to be living with
that person is kind of playing an important
role for her in allowing her to up level
into this new version of herself
where she does prioritize herself
um and then after that was it starts with prioritizing
herself as a human and what she needs
and then once that becomes a normal
thing she will be able to prioritize her business
this is kind of bringing it all together so
she her
a big thing she wants to be able to do is prioritize
her business not let the obstacles
kind of take her out not let her people pleasing
kind of pull her out of her business
and the guidance that kept coming through is before
you even prioritize your business
and of course she can still be doing her business
things through all of this it doesn't mean like
halt all business things and you can only
be a regular human it's just
kind of keeping up with what she's doing now but
really prioritizing
herself first as a human what are the human needs
that she needs where is she
prioritizing other people in front of her human needs
and once she's able to do that
then it's going to be a lot easier to prioritize
her business and not feel like she needs
all like all the time and all the hyper focused time
and by prioritizing
herself as a human a lot of that for her specifically
really is creating those blank pockets
feeling her feelings doing her own
energy work on herself
and not putting everyone before her needs
okay so the last thing that we have in here was
what it so this is the question
that I got for her she um
what can I
she had asked what can I do to set up boundaries
and not feel obligated
to take care of everyone I've been taking
care of for the last 27 years
and so this goes with
it's funny because I thought
we were gonna talk about boundaries here
and the one question
that was for her like the starting point from here
which is also going to be for many of you
is what is one small step
towards becoming the person
that doesn't feel obligated to do everything
for everyone else that I can start doing now
I'm gonna read that again
what is one small step towards becoming the person
that doesn't feel obligated to do everything
for everyone else that I can start doing now
so really feeling into what it it's what
didn't want to be was a list of boundaries
it doesn't need to be this list of rules of
if you do this I'm gonna do this or
I'm only going to allow this
that didn't feel aligned for her at all
it's about how can I become the person
that just doesn't feel obligated to do everything
for everyone else how can I become the person who
is okay with prioritizing myself
how can I become the person that is okay
with other people being upset with me
that's usually a big one is how can I
be okay
with not prioritizing everyone else first
which is how can I be okay
with not making people be upset with me
okay so let's summarize a little
the overarching thing here really is
a few things
number one prioritizing self so you can prioritize
your business your business is an extension of you and
if you are not first
being able to prioritize yourself
it's going to be harder to prioritize the business
so one way to be able to prioritize
the business is first prioritizing yourself
for her that really and probably
many of you is creating that blank space in your day
somewhere even if it's just two or five minutes
of allowing anything to kind of process
that needs to be processed kind of giving
your brain a little bit of a break
and then really
reminding yourself
that we all have these overarching life themes
and personal growth themes and
many times they feel even
bigger when we also have the business so
we're working on it in different layers
we're working on them in our personal personal stuff
and then it also is gonna come up in some way
with your business
so being able to see that
oh and I I knew there was one other thing
is using your own tools on yourself
so using your own magic your processes your tools
your methods
you are like client 1 you are your first
real client and so just reminding yourself
especially when things are hard especially
when you're frustrated about something
that your best people are also
probably frustrated about something
and to remind yourself one
you're worthy enough to use your own things on but also
you're probably being guided to use
your tools on yourself
okay I hope you all have a lovely rest of your day
just a reminder if you wanna
sign up for the November 30th free
Zoom Social Media Audit
we are going to have so much fun
and I am really looking
forward to connecting with some of you
more closely than here and I hope you have a lovely day
so much love to you bye