hello and welcome to the Intuitive Business
Mentor podcast
with your host me Amy
today we are gonna be talking about how on this journey
of entrepreneurship of sharing
your wisdom and magic in exchange for money
how there are so many opportunities for personal growth
through this entrepreneur journey
and we're gonna talk about one in particular today
and it is the idea of how do you wanna feel
in the middle
of your goals not happening yet
how do you wanna feel in the middle
of things not going your way
at the current moment so when you're
in business in whatever
way that is there's always going to be
goals that you want that you have not gotten to yet
and if that isn't happening for you
that probably means you need to set some goals
and possibly some bigger goals
it is normal to feel like you're failing
pretty much all of the time
we there's always something we're striving for
and this can again you're you can put
what I'm gonna talk about today
all in terms of your life too of something
that you are wanting to happen and it has not happened
yet
so in that in between
do we want to feel
like crap and like we're failing all of the time
or do we wanna feel like something else and this is a decision
if you
decide
I do wanna feel like crap in the middle of things
and then I wanna celebrate when it happens
and then move on that's your decision
I'm gonna guess
most of you are not gonna fall into that category though
because feeling like crap all the time feels like crap
and who wants to do that so
basically
we we can look at okay I don't have this thing yet
however
I don't need to feel like I'm failing the entire time
for before I have this thing meaning maybe
before I have this many clients or before I'm making
this much money or before I have this many social media
followers um because what's going to happen
is let's let's say
you just kind of feel like you're failing
the whole time and then you accomplish said goal
which is a lot harder to do
when you feel like you're failing all the time
because the actions you take are going to come from
I feel like I'm failing and there
you're gonna feel a lot more beaten down most likely
so when you accomplish that goal it's kind of like
you've accomplished that goal in spite of
feeling like you are failing all the time
this is not the path I would recommend
the feeling like everything's going
to crap and then hit your goal
it's a lot harder to do it this way but this is the way our human minds
are going to want to do it
so then you hit your goal you celebrate
maybe you I do believe you should celebrate but
you celebrate
but then what happens is you're gonna have another goal
there's always another goal there's always more your
like level of what you want to happen
is always going to be growing
and always going to be improving
I remember I have there's about 4,000
something people on my YouTube right now
which I know for a lot of people is not a lot but for me it's a lot right now
there was a time where I was excited
when there was like one new subscriber a month
I remember being that's so exciting one new subscriber
and then now if I don't have like
every few days getting a few subscribers
where it's like 10 every few days
I'm like okay what's what's going wrong
what can I do here so the the benchmark
the like finish line is always going to be moving
so from my perspective I want to feel
I want to enjoy the journey
I guess that's really what it comes down to I want to
enjoy the journey and I don't want to just enjoy
the goal and
the thing about it is energetically
if we can enjoy the journey
most likely you will hit your goals faster and easier
it doesn't mean it still won't feel
hard or still won't feel like it's taking too long
but it's going to feel better
and you're probably gonna make better decisions
and be more clear
when you feel like I can enjoy this journey
okay so like how do we actually do that
like I know that sounds so great enjoy the journey um
I do think for some people it might be actually helpful
to apply this first to something small in their
regular like human life
and then kind of extrapolate that
into their business stuff
because a lot of times with the business
stuff we have there's a lot of fear
or scarcity of money or putting yourself
out there and there's just a lot there's
more likely a lot of heavy
stuff that could be sticking around
so you could try this first with like little things in your regular life
like
going if you're if you have to drive somewhere
making the drive like
purposely setting
the intention and going into it of I'm going to enjoy
the drive
and not just like you're not just like on waiting
until you get there that might
that might feel and some of you might do this already
probably a lot of you do this already
so this is confirmation
for those of you who already do things like this
and you're probably ready to just
apply it right to your business
stuff if you're not already doing that but
maybe that looks like
setting up ahead of time okay I really wanna listen to this new
um this artist dropped a new CD and I haven't
listened to it yet so I'm gonna listen to that or just I wanna listen to some of my favorite
music
or I'm gonna listen to a podcast in the car and that's
you know I'm gonna learn or be inspired while I drive
or I'm going to
what I do a lot is I do a lot of my like
chatting with my higher self
guides type thing when I'm in the car
so maybe I do that
or maybe I purposely I'm like I'm just gonna have
maybe it's a 20 minute drive I'm just gonna purposely
drive in silence and allow my nervous system to like
feel the silence for 20 minutes
so looking at when you're doing something
the journey before you get to the destination
purposely
doing something so you're not just in like wait mode
until it happens
this is similar like um if you've ever hiked a mountain
so many times when people are hiking a mountain
it's like hike hike hike hike hike hike
and then you get to the top and it's like ah
we're at the top
but there was no like
enjoying the the middle part of hiking so
what this would look like for the climbing the mountain
would be okay I'm gonna like purposely
as I'm hiking I'm not just fin
focused on like getting to the top as fast as possible
I'm looking
around I'm like oh look at that tree that's cool
or maybe
if you're with someone you're having a conversation
with them or if you're by yourself
maybe you're just enjoying the quiet again so whatever
you have in your regular life where it's like a waiting
period it's like okay how could I enjoy
this in between or how could I bring more presence
to and kind of showing up for what is
in this waiting period
I'm just
feeling into what's next sorry for the random pause
okay so another thing that we can look at
let's bring this back to business for a second
is
what would the future version of me do in this moment
the one who's already accomplished the goal
that you wanna accomplish what would she or he do
so the more you can tap into the version of you
that's accomplished the goal
the easier the clearer decision
making you're going to be able to make to actually reach
the goal because what can be tricky
is you have the the present version of you
who has gotten as far as you've gotten so far
but in order to get
to that next place
assuming you're setting big enough goals
there's going you're there's an identity shift
that most likely needs to happen to
become that future version of you who accomplishes
said goal
so you could also be looking at okay what is the identity
that I'm being guided to step into
to become this future version of me who does have
the X number of clients that I want or makes
X number of amount of money per month or
this many subscribers
and what do I need to do to get there
and what decisions would they make from where I am now
so for example let's say
you are not making
the amount of money you wanna make a month
you can think about that future version of you who is
has already accomplished
that they are making that amount of money
what would they be doing on a day to day basis
like not what are they doing long term but today
how would they advise you today of what to do
to move your business towards that goal that
that future version of you has already accomplished
that feels really important for a lot of us
and then what we can also do which can be helpful
is really bringing ourselves
I've kind of alluded to this but really to the present
moment so what do I know in this moment
maybe I feel like I'm not far enough along
maybe I feel like I don't have enough X y Z
but what do I know what
is happening in this exact moment what am I in
control of
what could I do more of what could I do less of
is there something I'm missing
so for example
if it's I don't have the amount of clients
that I want right now the amount of readings
that I want the amount of sessions that I want
the amount of people
like doing my stuff if I don't have that
what could I do today
to get more people coming into my world
to meet more people to offer to them
my magic how I could support them
to give them a taste of what it's like working with me
so what not like what what could I do 3 months
from now like 3 months from now I'm gonna plan
this workshop and do that and do that that is great
however
then it's that waiting period for three months
again so I can plan the workshop that I wanna do
and what can I do today what is something today
that potential my perfect potential clients
could see and feel
and move closer to working with me
if if they're aligned to work with me of course
so what am I control of
not all the things that I'm not in control of
and a lot of this
like I don't even know 90% of this
is really really watching your thoughts
and the words you are saying so thoughts like
I'm not far enough along
no one wants to hear what I have to say
no one is listening
this will never happen for me why would someone pay me
there's a million of them we all have them
and it's not that the thoughts
need to go away because we are human beings
with human brains and it they are working to protect us
it's just that we need to not always believe
our thoughts
so your brain will offer you many thoughts
business related and regular human life related
many thoughts and a lot of them are not very kind
and I think
this growth opportunity that I'm talking about today
first of all I think it is like a superhuman thing to do so let's just like normalize that
most people go around life
never looking at their thoughts
never even bringing awareness to
the thoughts that they're thinking could be untrue
or even looking at is that true
is that helpful maybe not even true is that helpful
so what this kind of opportunity for personal growth is
is really paying attention to our thoughts
in the words that we say
and really noticing was that a helpful thought
or not was it a useful thought or not
if it's not useful
that's when we wanna follow it up with a useful thought
so unless you are a person
which I would be very surprised that any of you are
unless you are the person you are a person
that you work better and
do more heart aligned beautiful
business building activities
when you're being like bullied
and yelled at and told you're doing a bad job
unless somehow that turns into like beautiful
business growth
the unusable thoughts are not helping you so
it's not that you're not going to be offered
these thoughts
because you were always going to have a human brain
it's just going to happen
and it's not a problem that it happens
the problem is when we take those useless thoughts
and we just let them be useless and don't do anything
about it and then there's just more useless thoughts
so what we can do is when those
thoughts or words come out of our mouth
that are not useful
we can follow that up with a useful thought
it could be a question
that leads to a good answer like a helpful answer
so if it's no one's watching me
we could say
we could either look for evidence
like well is that really true we could go that avenue
is that really true
or what am I in control of to have more people watch me
what could I do where can I find my power
in this and not feel like a victim to my own thoughts
yes this is much easier said than done
and the more awareness that we can bring to our mind
whether it's in our regular life or business stuff
the more in control you are going to feel and the
better the journey is going to feel
so even if the thing hasn't happened
yet or even if you're not seeing what you wanna see
it's like okay what can I control here
what do I know about this
you know there's no way no one's watching
what I post or no one's being
helped by what I post because sometimes
people reach out and say oh I really loved that
or that really resonated with me
it might not be obvious that they're watching
but what if they were watching
what would I say to them if I had more people watching
so what
what can I kind of bring myself to the present moment
with probably a question that I can answer
that will produce helpful thoughts instead of
feeling bad thoughts
okay
I'm gonna end there I hope that was helpful definitely
reach out if there's anything
you want to share or if you have any further questions
and I
will see you when I see you
okay so much love to you bye